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Sometimes when I have tried to achieve a certain goal, it comes to a halt when it doesn’t work out. Suddenly, I feel like I'm standing at a “roadblock" and my motivation starts to disappear.
As we make our way through this journey called “life,” we often wonder why roadblocks even exist. All kinds of questions run through our minds - could it be fate? Did God plan this for me? Am I making the wrong choices? Roadblocks have a good way of making us feel “stuck” and most of the time, they leave us feeling completely helpless.
But think about it for a second... If everything was handed to us on a silver platter, how would we learn to grow? We sometimes lose sight of the positive that can come out of a negative situation. If life were perfect and there were no roadblocks, we wouldn’t be able to challenge our minds, find solutions, or even learn to create a “plan b.” Think of a bad situation you've been in, what did you learn from it? Did it make a positive impact in your life? Are you happy you went through it? What was your take away? With all that said, sometimes, it's just naturally easy to lose motivation, but it’s also important to remember that you are in control of the choices you make and therefore, you manifest the results.
Instead of losing focus on unachieved goals, think of ways you can work around the problems they presented. Speaking from experience, I was always wasting my time worrying about every roadblock that came my way. Trying to get motivated actually became a problem for me. I didn’t know where to begin. It wasn’t until I had kids that I felt motivated to achieve some of my most "go-getter" goals. When I finally got myself together, I never wanted to feel unmotivated again.
I had many goals (I still do) that I wanted to achieve, but I needed to be realistic at the same time. I had to set myself up to accept failure, just in case my goals didn’t work out the way I thought they would. In order to do that, I created a “goals and worst case scenario list.” Yes, you guessed it… A list with all the goals I wanted to achieve and what could possibly go wrong while trying to achieve them. For example, one of my goals was to become a singer. I decided that I would make an appointment with a producer and record a song. While I had dreams of making a career out of my singing, I also knew I had to be realistic so, in my “worst case scenario” section, I listed the following:
The song could be a flop
I might not like the song
Others might not like the song
No record label would sign me
Prepare for singing to JUST be a hobby
I found myself a talented producer and recorded 3 great songs. But guess what? Turns out that I actually found myself liking singing more as a hobby - and it was totally okay, because my list helped me prepare for it!
Regardless, getting motivated takes a lot of work. When I needed it, I found ways to invite motivation back into my life and therefore, I am sharing my list with you for whenever you need to self-motivate.
Uncensored writing. Writing is considered therapeutic. Give yourself ten minutes each day to write down everything and anything in your mind. Write about your struggles and how you plan to conquer them.
Affirmations and quotes. Saying affirmations and reading inspirational quotes on a daily basis is a great way to find some motivation.
Reverse psychology. If you feel unmotivated, the key is to accept it first and then move forward. Something about feeling like you can’t do it actually pushes you to want to do it.
Vision board. Put together some images that reflect your goals. This will help to motivate you in attaining those goals.
Physical exercise. Releasing endorphins keeps your mental health in check by surrounding your body with positive energy, and you definitely need that in order to stay motivated – So get moving!
Stop underestimating yourself. Don’t think that you can not do it, nothing is impossible. Put your mind to it and focus. Always remind yourself that you will get there.
Listen to motivating music. There are tons of songs that talk about pushing through and reaching for your dreams. Create a motivation playlist that will help you strive for your goals.
Talk to a motivating friend. Sometimes, all you need is a motivating friend to tell you that you can do it. It really helps to have some encouragement.
Focus on one goal. You will have more of a handle on things if you focus on one goal at a time. Trying to accomplish two, three or even four goals all at once can make you lose sight of the importance that each goal holds.
Reward yourself. After completing your goal, it’s so important to reward yourself. If you have achieved something big in your life, it’s necessary to celebrate! This will help motivate you to always attain your goals.
Staying motivated reinforces the achievement towards a special goal. Think of a roadblock as a stepping stone – it’s a step closer to achieving your goal. Stay focused, stay positive and be motivated!